tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post6747298376546431776..comments2023-11-21T00:42:39.631-08:00Comments on The Wug's Backyard BlogSpot: Women's roles..They Are A-Changing!!PoetessWughttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05269054577952128702noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-80995498881374128592010-09-28T14:14:45.747-07:002010-09-28T14:14:45.747-07:00CinLynn, Thank you SOOOOO much for sharing that pi...CinLynn, Thank you SOOOOO much for sharing that piece of your personal situation with me. You've been where I'm heading, so your insight is invaluable to me!! I wish sometimes that I had children, and then other times I'm thankful that we didn't!! How much harder would this time be now, if hubby had to temper his emotions so that the kids wouldn't get upset?!! Instead, he only has to worry about me, or shall I say 'WORRIED, past tense, about me. I'm working on being his support system, as he always has been mine! I'll need help from above and from my friends, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it!! :-)...Thanks for the nice words about my version of the Proverbs too!!PoetessWughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05269054577952128702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-80622442361378777602010-09-28T14:06:18.948-07:002010-09-28T14:06:18.948-07:00Alicia, You and I both have worn the mantle of ...Alicia, You and I both have worn the mantle of 'Oldest' child too! It inherently comes with a feeling of responsibility, whether anybody expects it of you...or you expect it of yourself!! So, I have enjoyed being the 'baby', so to speak, in these last years with Jeff. I hope that I will be able to embrace my new role with "Flavor"! :-)) I know one thing....I WILL be talking!!! LOLPoetessWughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05269054577952128702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-63726935502679630812010-09-28T12:54:31.405-07:002010-09-28T12:54:31.405-07:00Deb, you are an encouragement to me as always! It...Deb, you are an encouragement to me as always! It's hard to have to change roles after so many years. I've had to do it a lot over the years and I do have children. It's really not much different except that the roles tend to be different. When my hubby's father got sick and was put in a nursing home, it took a lot out of him. The sadness in his face broke my heart! His once strong father was now vulnerable and scared as a child! I saw it my father's face before he died. He was once the caretaker, and now my husband and his family became the ones to take care of him. The day he died, he opened his eyes and looked around the room to be sure we were all there. Then he closed his eyes and went to sleep. My hubby still tears up when we talk about it. And it's been almost 3 yrs. So yes, you do have to become a supporter and give him the love and understanding that he REALLY needs at this time! And that support will continue for some time. I know you can do it!! <br />I love the poem! Proverbs 31 is some of my favorite scriptures! Great job on it!CinLynn Boutiquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04297171884671320667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-52133224359678624872010-09-28T12:41:44.177-07:002010-09-28T12:41:44.177-07:00Boy do I know about changing roles! As the oldest...Boy do I know about changing roles! As the oldest child, when my parents and grandparents were sick I was expected to take the lead. Never mind that I was a divorced mother working full-time living in a different city. It wasn't easy and I usually added some, shall I say, flavor from time to time but it just seems to be a natural thing for me: changing roles, wearing different hats, doing what I have to do. I hope your in-laws will be fine and that you will embrace your new roles with 'flavor'. Luv ya!Alicianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-37409817653657510622010-09-28T10:13:36.307-07:002010-09-28T10:13:36.307-07:00Thank you so much for the encouragement Cathy! It&...Thank you so much for the encouragement Cathy! It's always nice to hear from ones who are experiencing similar situations. :-)PoetessWughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05269054577952128702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-16705148064000751232010-09-28T09:50:21.793-07:002010-09-28T09:50:21.793-07:00This post is so honest and beautiful. The artwork...This post is so honest and beautiful. The artwork you chose helps to tell your story so wonderfully. <br /><br />I can also relate to you and Silke....my husband and I don't have any children and I don't have to work anymore. He works full time so he is supportive of me following whatever dream I have. I am still in the process of redefining myself and adjusting to this way of life. <br /><br />Thank you Debbie for sharing this with us. And I am sending you a big hug too! :)<br /><br />I am sure you will both do whatever it takes to handle the changes that come your way .Cathy Buetihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09176782992604138092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-56105089423746505522010-09-28T07:40:31.481-07:002010-09-28T07:40:31.481-07:00Thank you so much Silke!! I know that you and Dani...Thank you so much Silke!! I know that you and Daniel are like me and Jeff in having no children, and in being married for a lot of years too! So you probably really understand what I mean about changing roles. Now that both of our parents are getting up in years and our responsibilities toward them is increasing, it's going to be more of a challenge. But if adjustments is what it takes...adjustments is what will happen!! :-)PoetessWughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05269054577952128702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593446012269283473.post-74103273862405658692010-09-28T06:07:57.720-07:002010-09-28T06:07:57.720-07:00That is such a wonderful and heartfelt post. I lov...That is such a wonderful and heartfelt post. I love how you illustrated it with artwork from such talented people! I often think about that as my role has changed over the years and especially when I stopped working. Like you, we have no children and so we spend all our time together. This changed when I stopped working and Daniel started working full-time. I had to redifine myself and it took a while. I would imagine that all of your roles will change with your father-in-law's health challenge. Sending you a big hug!! Love, SilkeSilke Powershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17094855019089665976noreply@blogger.com