Green...In Treasuries And In Marriage!

(Polymer Clay Grey Green White Earrings by ShimmeringCloud)

       Happy Monday, Everybody!...or is it Tuesday where you live?! ^_^ Whatever the case, Happy, Happy!! :-) Let's make the beginning of this week get off to a good start, shall we!...I'm gonna do my part. I'm gonna share my weekend happiness with you! :-)

      My weekend happiness has to do with a well thought out conclusion I came to over the weekend. It has to do with marriage...I even wrote a new poem about it. It's at the end of this post....NO!...I don't want you to scroll down there yet!!! LOL...First let me share something else that made me happy this weekend!...

 (Green, White and Gray treasury curated by Lisa Renteria)

      My little crochet necklace was chosen for a cute treasury full of my favorite color...green! :-)

 (Beaded Green and Gray Flower Crochet Necklace by wuglyees)

       Happy, happy! :-)

     And here are a couple of my favorite items from the treasury, besides the earrings in the header photo I mean...

 (Elephant Pillow by CecilClyde)

 (Sleepy Owl Crochet Hat by The5Princesses)

      Now...the happy conclusion I came to over the weekend is that I'm happy to be a long time married person! ;-) ... I wouldn't go back to being a short time married person if you paid me!!!

      I'm not gonna get into the particulars, but let me just say...newly married people have so much energy!...passion!...emotion!...anxiety!...anxiousness!....Aargh! LOL...Of course they, being short time married people, think it's great! They don't see anything wrong with all of that 'what-are-we-gonna-do-next? Where-are-we-gonna-go-now?' energy!...but as long time married people, hubby and I get tired just watching them navigate the world! LOL

    It's sometimes hard for hubby and I to believe that we used to be like that! We used to bounce from event to event, gathering to gathering...we used to get very upset at the slightest seeming sideways comment...we used to celebrate everything as an anniversary {the anniversaries of our first kiss, our first hand-hold, our first car ride, our first long talk, etc...}...we used to think that no one on the planet loved each other as much as we loved each other! ugh!...we were sickening!!! ^_^

     I was reminded of all of that angst this weekend....and reminded how thankful I am that we're not back in it anymore!!! ^_^ ... All due respect to newly married people. We 'do' get it! You love each other!!! And we're so happy to see true love in the world, but WOW!!! We can't wait to see what you're like at year ten...or twenty!...when you finally realize that just because your husband doesn't finish your every word, or your wife doesn't wanna fix your favorite dish at every meal, that doesn't mean that your love is dying!...ugh! LOL

      At 30 plus years hubby and I are more deeply in love than we ever were! But I still don't think his toenails are cute, and he doesn't love the way I smell early in the morning....Shoot us! LOL...Making sure we hold hands when other people are around is not a priority, and making sure we never argue about ANYTHING is not even close to being what we aspire to! Sometimes an argument is necessary!...We just don't get into calling names or bringing each other's 12-toed relatives into it!! LOL

     As I said...Ahhhhh! The Happiness!!....I was never so happy to see a Monday come!!! LOL...Have a Happy Monday, Everybody!...And you short time marrieds....bring it down a notch for us old timers, will ya!! ^_^

The Long and Short Of It

Long time marriage is not the same as
those just married for a year.
Short time marriages are fearless.
An easier said: "I'm outta here!"

Long time marriages are fearful,
but not of who is gonna leave.
They're more fearful of cleaned closets,
and what clothes their spouse will heave.

Short time marriages are passion filled.
Everything is 'do or die'!
Anniversaries are epic,
usually a feasting for the eye.

Long time marriages are quieter.
Life's a journey. Not a ride.
Their mate's faults, inconsequential.
But their stories, deep and wide.

Short time marriages 'Go! Go! Go!'
Always planning what's next to do.
An excited bride is always learning,
and the groom is learning how to please his 'boo'.

Long time marriages are more settled.
there is nowhere they 'HAVE TO' be.
And if someone else thinks so,
just try to 'Make 'Em' and you'll see!

Don't get me wrong, there's clearly love
in both the short and the long of it.
But the way that they approach it?
Yeah, it varies quite a bit.

Short time lovers, and their in-laws,
wonder how it's gonna go.
Long time lovers know that wonder,
like their in-laws, ebb and flow.

Short time marrieds, always seeking,
feel everything is on the line.
Long time marrieds know they'll make it,
and are just seeking where next to dine!

What Did You Think Marriage Would Be Like...Before You Got Married?!

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        I know that some of you would prefer that I talk about anything other than the sappy love story exploits of me and Mr. Wug that I talk about on occasion around here...Even the weather! But considering that our weather here in Massachusetts consisted of a shallow earthquake (1.4 on the Richter scale) on Monday, rain like crazy today and tomorrow, and snow coming on Thursday....I don't wanna talk about the weather....UGH!!! 

     I wanna talk about what I got to thinking about when I was doing the study for my upcoming meeting on Sunday. The article is on "Wise Counsel On Singleness And Marriage"...I've been both...single and married. ^_^ It started out by saying that 'few aspects of life cause more elation, frustration, or worry than our dealings with the opposite sex'!!...That is sooooo true!

     It got me to thinking back about my wedding day. And about how different my life is now...as a married woman...from what it was like when I was single!...Do you all ever think about that?! How different your life is from what you thought your life would be when you got married?!

      When we tootled down the highway toward our honeymoon in Florida after our 'I Do's, all I remember thinking about was how much fun we were gonna have!...

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        We had planned our whole wedding together. Music, location, food, guests and everything...without a hitch! We had even agreed on who was NOT gonna be at the wedding! :-) All we could see ahead of us was a life...always and forever...of love! ♥    

          Yes...that was 'Our Song'! LOL I even have video of hubby singing it...*giggling*...and one day.....probably when something freezes over...he's gonna let me share it with you! ^_^ Don't hold your breath on that one though...But trust me when I tell you...hubby singing 'always and forever' in his completely loud and toned-deaf way is the gift that keeps on giving all these years later!! ^_^
     As I was saying...as we tootled down that highway, him in his white tuxedo, and me in my white wedding dress with pink rollers in my hair by nightfall, we were two love-sick, unrealistic nuts, whose marital expectations needed some adjustment! ^_^ We had a dream...no! not like Martin Luther King ^_^...but, a dream that our marriage was going to be extraordinary, unlike any people who had ever been in love before!
     After all...we had married our best friends...

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        Talk of potential trouble or problems arising were the furthest things from our minds!...Unrealistic Nuts! ^_^ ...The reality of our finances, and how different we were in the way we thought about things, became pretty clear almost as soon as we got home from the honeymoon though...We had to eat biscuits and syrup for about two weeks because we had spent every penny we had on the wedding and honeymoon!!

     And while I was ready for us to die in each other's arms from starvation if we had to...as long as we were together! ^_^...hubby was ready to work three jobs, around the clock if need be, so we could have some money and never get in this predicament ever again!!!...See what I mean?! ^_^

      We've been pretty happily married for almost thirty years now, so clearly we've learned a few things about how to squelch some of that fanciful expectation! But it sure would've been a lot easier if we had asked a few more questions than we did back in the beginning of our relationship! :-)

     Questions like...

--Do you want to live in an apartment or do you really need to own a home?! There were arguments for and against both answers!...I have to say, I really liked the idea of apartment living where someone else rakes leaves in the Fall, removes snow in the winter, and repairs everything in the house without sending you a bill!!...Hubby grew up in a family owned home and couldn't imagine not living in his own house!

--Are you a money saver or a money spender?!...Again, there's arguments for both sides. I'm the saver in our house, but I'm not a penny-pincher either...Hubby once bought a small piece of Kobe beef from the grocery store that cost almost $40.oo and never noticed!! He just paid for it and came home! When I asked him why the amount was so high he said he didn't know! O_O...My dad still teases him to this day about that! He invites himself over for dinner on occasion by leading with: "When am I gonna get one of those $40.00 beef meals you're so crazy about buying?!" LOL

--What are we gonna do for leisure time?!...Play cards, go out to dinner two or three times a week?...Fly to France for wine and cheese?! ^_^ Hubby and I have worked this one out pretty well!

--Where will we live?!...In the city where everything is at our fingertips and open all night, or in the country, where the air is fresh and clean and we can see the stars in the night sky?...We've done both at different times in our lives...and love both! :-)

--How often are we gonna visit the in-laws?!...Uhhhh...this one is still an on-going conversation all the time!!...I remember an 'Everybody Loves Raymond' episode where they were talking about where to buy a house. Deborah...which is my namesake! ^_^...and Ray decided the same as hubby and I did...We wanted to live close enough to the relatives that they'd have to get in the car and travel to come and visit, but not so far away that once they got there it would have to be an overnight stay! LOL {By the way, if you've never seen 'Everybody Loves Raymond' look HERE and HERE. LOL}

--How will we discipline the children...if we have any?...which we decided not to...Good thing too because we would definitely have been on two polar opposite sides of that debate!...We had a hint of it when both of our young sisters stayed with us one weekend and they got into the dumpster out back after we told them not to!...Hubby ended up crying more than his sister, who he was suppose to be giving a spanking! LOL

--Would overnight trips, like to ball games and girl getaways, without each other be allowed?!...We never had any issues with this one. We've always spent so much time together anyway that a little trip with the girls or the fellas was never an issue. :-] We're only talking a couple of days here though. More than that might have been an issue!

--Can we have friends of the opposite sex?...No!!!! Not unless they were both of our friends...and never with the 'friend' spending time alone with the other spouse!...We drew our marital line right there! And say what you want...we're still happily together! :-) And we've seen some really 'wonky' stuff done by so-called 'friends'!!

      There are other questions that we should've asked. Ones waaay more personal than these...but I'm NOT gonna into that with you!! No! ^_^ But...let's just say....we're good! :-] 

     Our marriage has grown up...right along with us. And except for some occasional snoring and C-Pap machine issues...

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       ...and some non-sleeping, and some doing-anything-at-night-to-distract-myself-into-a-sleep-coma...

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          ...we've worked out most of the problems that would give younger married couples trouble.

      Long story short....No! marriage is not what I thought it would be like when we first got married. Truth is...no marriage could be! ^_^ But what it is...

--kissing each other goodbye, even when we're just going to the store; 

--kissing hello when we get back;

--talking to each other and giggling about aches and pains in the dark before we fall asleep every night;

--fighting over what the other one has in his candy 'stash box';

--singing songs and dancing off key and while sitting in one spot; 

--having to be touching...even when we're just reading to ourselves while next to each other; 

--and phone calls just to say "I Love You"...just in case anything happens to the other one...You know...you might get hit by a car or something! LOL...

         ...is pretty great! :-)

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       So what if love is not all 'giddy-giddy' like it used to be...We're good with that!...Nowadays love is just something that we do! :-)

Every Day Love Talk

It's  2:30 in the morning.
The alarm goes off right on cue.
He gets up and shaves and showers;
says "Bye Bye Baby. I love you."

Right around noontime
comes a call on his cell phone,
saying: "I was thinking of you.
I can't  wait til I get home."

When his work day ends,
he calls to say he's  leaving the job.
I count the minutes I know it will take
before he's  turning our doorknob.

Then there's  3 pecks on the lips,
and "Hi Baby! How was your day?"
"Dinner will be ready in a little while;"
and before we go to bed, we pray.

We curl up in each other's  arms,
giggle and talk, laying in the moonlight;
and its an "I love you" and "I love you too"
and everything in the world seems right.