I Don't Want To Be 'JUST' The Big Sister Anymore!

 (Stamped Sister Rings by PureImpressions)

      I'm taking kind of a detour from my usual posts today to talk about a subject that I've been thinking about for a while. The subject of family, and where I fit in the family. I've thought about it before, with no solutions in my head as to what to do about it. But something happened yesterday that brought it all back up again!

      I got a phone call from my dad, which I told you about. But afterward I got a call from my sister. Dad had called her to tell her the good news about my doctor's appointment, and she called to say how happy she was for me. :-] ... But when I hung up the phone I started to pull apart bits and pieces of the conversation, and I realized....I'm still the big sister!! O_O

      Okay...here's where you go and get your cup of coffee. ^_^ ...

 (Hand Stamped Vintage Spoon by ForSuchATimeDesigns)

      Let me ask you...where are you in the family tree?!...I'm the oldest of my mother's children (eight in all). The 'big sister'. And that's what I've always been! ALWAYS! The one who plans everything like crazy. Who worries about everybody, as if I'm the second mother. The one who gets the phone calls when someone needs a shoulder to cry on, or some other kind of help!

      I'm also the one who none of my sisters and brothers really know....Not 'REALLY!', I mean!...I think the reason is because they 'have' thought of me as sort of a second mom. The 'go to' person...yes!...But also the social enemy of all things 'cool'! ^_^ More like the 'keeper-of-all-things-that-remind-them-of-HOME'!...

 (Colourful Forest and Lake Original Acrylic Painting by GiselleDenisFineArt)

      And that's not a bad thing! In fact, I've prided myself on being just that!...for years...'The-Keeper-Of-All-Things-Having-To-Do-With-HOME'!! :-) But now, as a 'Wug' girl into my fifties, I wanna be more than just the 'big sister'!!!...I wanna be the companion. The friend. The neighbor. The first phone call to share family funnies with. The one 'BEING helped for a change!!!

      It feels to me sometimes that my sisters and brothers think that no matter what goes on with me, or what is happening around me, that "Eh! She's got that!"...When in fact, there are times when I wish I had a big sister, with broad loving shoulders, for me to cry on!...Not that I'd use them much! LOL But I'm sure I would...maybe! ^_^ 

      So, as of today, I declare that 'I AM MOVING ON' from 'big sister' status!!!! ^_^ The 'Please-call-me-if-you-need-something' ship has now sailed!! LOL...

 (Original Museum Quality Open Edition print/ poster by falboart)

      And the 'Hey, Girl! ship has pulled into port! ^_^ Don't get me wrong, as long as I'm alive I know I'll be the big sister!...But from now on out, no one needs to weigh their words around me because they're afraid I'll be counseling them on the rights and wrongs of being in this family, etc...!...Even though they can expect a friendly nudge in the right direction from their true 'sister/friend'! ^_^

      If you're not the type of person who has ever noticed how your siblings respond to you, based on where you are in the family line, then this post will make no sense whatsoever!! LOL And you're probably not the oldest!! ^_^ The eldest sibling, in my experience, always notices!!! LOL

      So, no more outcast status for me! Call me 'Miss Moving On'!! ^_^

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(Fine Art Giclee Print by susancasephotography)

      But still, YAY for sisterhood!! ^_^ Have a good day, Sisters and Brothers!! :-) ♥

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      Bye Bye, "Big Sister"....I'll shed a tear for you, and remember you well.
 
Sisters

Sisters-on the family curve
sometimes just get on your nerve;
But, sisters will a purpose serve,
they will your life preserve.

Sisters-sometimes they're at war;
and sometimes they "do" go to far.
All sisters want to be the star-
not follow where you are!

Sisters-they don't care a bit!
When fighting they will never quit!
But, sisters, all your jokes they get;
and, when with you, they fit!

Sisters-are your family.
Sisters, see the things you see;
Sisters, knew the girl you'd be,
and set your spirit free.

Sisters-beside you they live;
and sometimes drain you, like a sieve;
But sisters, their last dime will give,
and will your bad forgive.

Sisters-no one else can knock;
and wow!-the memories they unlock.
A sisters smile can stop the clock-
'cause sisters "They Just Rock!"

Parents-with the seasons flow.
Boyfriends-they will come and go.
Brothers-by your side will grow.
But, sisters ease your woe;
and one shared heart you know.

Life...Family...And Pretty Butterflies!

 (Butterfly Wide Cotton Tape from lillalotta)

       Hello! :-) See my smiley face? --> :-) I'm feeling better. A lot better! I haven't coughed for hours! My nostrils are staying clear...except for just after I wake up. And my head is thinking up all kinds of pretty things to make today! :-)

       That's probably why this pretty craft tape from the Etsy shop lillalotta caught my eye. Talk about PRETTY!! :-)

(Carnations Wide Cotton Tape from lillalotta)

      Oh, if only I could figure out how to get some of it onto my crochet flowers!! ^_^ Ha! Even I'm not that talented!! LOL So I guess I'll just admire it from afar. :-)

      I really don't have anything to talk about today, so this post will be a kind of 'stream of consciousness' ramble..Starting with the fact that I was contacted by my biological father's family recently. I don't know why I'm even talking about it because it's such a confusing situation for me.

      My biological father died a long time ago now. I never knew him. It does my heart good though, to get updates about how everybody is doing. I also must admit that it feels kind of disconnected somehow too though. I mean, I'm a sister, but not really...I have nieces, nephews, aunts and uncles...but not exactly. O_O 

      It almost seems like a book I read somewhere! LOL A father I never met before he died, a step-mom who I don't really know, and who seems wary of me. Sisters and brothers that I never converse with...but somehow we're all related! ^_^ ...Add to that the other sisters and brothers who I sometime wish I didn't want to converse with, and you have the whole story of moi!...family-wise I mean.

      It's not the 'whole' story of moi...because you'd have to add a whole lot of Jehovah God, some wonderful friends, a trick hip and some arthritis (Grrr!), some Russell Stovers chocolates, a six-foot husband, some crochet hooks, boutonniere flowers and pretty yarn...to get the whole story of 'MOI'!! LOL

      I've talked about my family situation on earlier blog posts anyway, so I won't get too into again, but if you have any ideas about how to navigate this kind of relationship, without stepping on spiritual and emotional toes, give a girl (me) a clue, will ya! ^_^

      For now...I'm off to get some breakfast, and ponder life...and butterflies. :-) You can join me if you like! ...Have a good day, Everybody! :-)

My Favorite People

My favorite people listen well,
and talk almost as good.
They like to eat good food,
and hang out in my neighborhood.

They like a chuckle now and then,
and dance when music's played.
And give nice complements...
and no! they haven't all been paid!

Some 'favorite people' are, I'm sure,
still ones I haven't met.
But until then, my favorites are
ones owed a 'loving' debt.

They've loved me through some heartache,
and the hardest, roughest time.
They're my favorites for a reason,
and deserve this 'Wuggie' rhyme.