We always, always, always break our heads trying to take the most perfect photos....to get them at the right angle...to shade them just right....to make sure they're sharp enough...and that the color is vivid enough, etc...etc....etc.!! But today I want to show you my 'bad'!!! LOL
My fuzzed up...
Something happened yesterday...I'm going to spare you the details...that got me REALLY mad!!!! It was one of those kind of things where I had been enduring an on-going situation for a loooong time and ONE MORE KINK IN THE HOSE...so to speak...took me over the edge!!!
When this 'situation' happened in the past I would excuse the individuals involved and remind myself that 'nobody's perfect'!....Then it would happen again and I would say: "They probably just forgot!"....It would happen again and I would say: "It's probably me. Let me do something to remind them."
My excuses for the behavior went even farther.....'They have a lot on their plates.'....'They're trying their best!'....'I need to learn to be more patient.'...But yesterday I finally looked at how 'bad' this is!!! I finally realized...when my hubby got mad and 'went to bat for me'....that this oversight and disrespect is UNACCEPTABLE!! And even further....My 'let-it-slide' attitude appears to be making the situation worse, not better!!! So, I need to become a 'SQUEAKY WHEEL' !!!
It's time to really look at the 'bad' of it!! The wear and tear to my self-esteem. The discouragement and feeling that maybe nobody really cares anyway. The 'bad' personality traits of people who should really know better...and do better!! The 'dragging of the feet', the lackadaisicalness, the 'dropping of the ball of responsibility'!! The over-looking of how 'I' might be feeling in the way the situation is being handled...And the apparent 'NOT caring!! :-(
(via Phoot)
Now, I know that I'm not the only person in the world that ever had people around them...people that they loved and cared for, by the way... treat them with seeming disrespect, while at the same time they were claiming that that was not their intention!...But I'm here to tell you, DISRESPECTFUL PEOPLE, that no matter what your 'intention' is, when you repeatedly over-look and discount the feelings of someone you claim to love....it feels 'bad'. VERY 'bad'!!So, now that I've actually looked at the 'bad' of it...and 'squeaked' about it!...here's 'hoping' the situation will start to open up onto a new understanding!
If photo taking,...with experience...and proper lighting...and looking at things from a different angle...and clearing things up and bringing them into better focus...can get better....
{As a side note: Thank you Mr. Wug for always being exactly who I know 'You' to be! XOXOX You're my 'by my side', 'number one', 'fighter of all things wrong'! :-] I love you!!}
Okay....A couple of quick reminders: If any of you are interested in the pocketbook Giveaway, don't forget to enter. I haven't gotten a lot of entries so far.
And I finished the black and white shawl/scarf!!..Woohoo!! (Click on photos for sources)
Oh Yeah! I sold this brooch yesterday too!
Let's talk about our bad
Let's talk about what we've done bad.
Not talk about what we did right.
Let's talk about what we have messed up.
Not what's been clearly black and white.
All the photos that we've taken,
that we want no one to see.
All the cakes that fell apart.
Things that deserved apology.
It's easy rolling out our 'good'.
We do that every single day.
But Oooo! The 'bad' things we destroy
we quickly want to put away!
So, let's be bigger than our 'bad'.
Let's see some beauty in 'mistake'.
Let's give a pause to being 'perfect',
and give ourselves a little break!
I hope the "situation" takes a turn for the good for you. I understand about the out of focus photos. I took over 150 yesterday and had 2 necklaces that just wanted to be out of focus in EVERY shot! Re-do time I see. But it did make the point.
ReplyDeleteCinLynn, I'm sure the 'situation' will get better. If not....Oooo! I don't want to think about it NOT getting better! LOL And WOW! 150 photos!! YIKES! Hubby and I took 32 photos of my shawl/scarf the other day and I was sick, sick, sick of looking at it after that! 150 would have me humming and playing with my lips!!! ^_^
ReplyDeletePraying the "situation" improves. Love your stuff, you know that :-)
ReplyDeleteSending big hugs your way xo
P.S. Me, me, me, hand waving high in the air, I follow you!!!
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Katherines Corner, Thank you! I hope it does too! I'm hopeful that it will. :-) And thanks for the nice words too. {By the way, is the book "Maine" in the library?!} I'm thinking of maybe making that my next read.
ReplyDeleteKatherines Corner, Oh Yeah, ^_^ You're entered!
ReplyDeleteIt will get better Deb. I have done the same thing. Not say anything because I think it will get better, but when it doesn't it really annoys me. So, I have to force myself to speak up so the problem can be resolved. Have a great day. Hugs. Peg
ReplyDeletePeg, Thanks for the encouragement. And if you knew me in real life you'd know that I'm not one to have a problem with speaking up!! LOL It's just the nature of this particular situation. I have to be reasonable...and aware of who else would be affected...Touchy!...It'll work out though, I'm sure. :-]
ReplyDeleteHi Deb, great post, things do get better, just look at your photos :0) I hate people like this, bad manners, bad time keeping and so annoying!! my pet hates. Hoping your week gets so much better cos you deserve it ;)
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Have a delicious day!
PS. well done on your sale :)
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Bee Happy, Awww! Thanks for the encouragement. :-) And I agree...things do get better...usually. And I'm sure this will too. I just have to take the proper steps...in the proper state of mind. :-) And you're entered!
ReplyDeleteDeb, I hope and pray that the situation gets better for you. I really do but with lots of experience in such sometimes coming out and letting those you love know what perspective you see only makes things worse. Like mom use to say, you can't change a zebras stripes. I'm glad that you have a husband that loves you so much that he would take it upon himself to try and make things right. You are such a lucky woman to have him. What I can say about my experinces is that been there done that and still at the same point of no return for the last 15 years. Good luck my friend! I'm here if you ever need to talk. I hope you have a great day today!!!! :-)
ReplyDeleteSnowflakeDreams1, Thank you Velma. I have great hopes that the situation will get better. It has to, in fact! If not, I'll have to take steps to get a solution that gives me some peace. Either way, it will be addressed!...My experience, unlike yours apparently...WOW!...has been that MOST of the time, when I have spoken up in the past, things always were addressed and a resolution agreed upon. MOST of the time.Not always. But MOST of the time. So I'm hopeful for this time too. I'll keep you posted though. Thank you. :-]
ReplyDeleteI always take about 20 photos of the same thing just to make sure that I can get one good one. I'm loving my DSLR, but man it is hard to get used to when I've just been using my iPhone camera for the past few years! LOL
ReplyDeleteElle, YIKES! 20 shots!! For my close ups on my necklaces I take 5 shots. Enough to fill up the shot windows in my description area on Etsy!! LOL Sometimes more shots are taken by my hubby. The outside shots. But he doesn't take a whole lot of them either. We just try to do it when the light is best. YAY! for Canon (automatic) Powershots!! ^_^
ReplyDeleteI learned the hard way about - 'you teach people how to treat you'. It doesn't seem fair that you're partly responsible for their actions and you think that you shouldn't have to tell them how they make you feel and that they 'should just know better'.
ReplyDeleteIt all comes down to putting yourself 1st and we're always taught not to do this. We're all sort of set up for failure with this. You have to learn how to do it.
I love that your Hubby takes pictures with you! I have a love/hate with pictures. Sometimes everything just flows and other times I'm just shooting blanks!
have a happy happy day!
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Lisa
Lisa, I absolutely agree with the saying that you teach people how to treat you!! That's why it's taken me this long. I wanted to give them appropriate time to treat me well!! Also, the truth is I'm 'not' responsible for their actions! But I tried my best to exercise the patience I know my God would have me exercise. I didn't want to 'rock the boat' if it was sincerely a problem of inexperience, lack of time, lack of understanding, or whatever!! It took time to be assured that that was not the case. I'm at 'that' point now!! The REAL issue has been resolved...and it's not good!!! I know them though, and I know there isn't a bad motive here. Just bad manners!! :-] Somebody needs a 'virtual' spanking!! LOL All my friends know...I'm the one to give it too!! :-)))
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean about the room for improvement. I hope that whatever it is that tipped things over the edge for you improves & that whoever it was that was disrespectful learns some manners.
ReplyDeleteIt seems that yesterday was the day for things that tipped situations over the edge. Just thinking about what happened with Brodie at school & his getting suspended. Something happened and it was the 'straw that broke the camels back'. I'll be at his school on Thursday sorting things out for him.
Now on to nicer things: Love Love Love the buttons you used! They look perfect for the B&W shawl. The scarf doesn't look too bad either. I like how you did the edging :)
Jo-anne, I hope that the situation with Brodie turns out well too, giving him a positive direction to go after it's all said and done. I'm sure mine will be that way too...hopefully!...Thank you so much for the nice words about the buttons on the shawl! It was a last minute kinda thought. And those buttons were calling that shawl's name! LOL...The scarf?!...Well...it's a 'Wuglyee'. That's the most I can say about that. Except that even if nobody else loves it...I do. :-)
ReplyDeleteIt can be so frustrating when those we love are inconsiderate! It has happened to me, thing is I tend to stuff my hurt feelings down. Not a good thing. I would love to enter your contest. I love your work. I take really bad etsy photos! So frustrating.
ReplyDeleteSusan, You're very right about the inconsiderate thing! And you're also right about stuffing your feelings down not being a good thing! That's definitely not the problem I have! ^_^ I just have 'chosen' not to speak up before now!...Thank you for the nice complement on my work too. You're entered in the Giveaway as of now! :-) By the way, I didn't know you had an Etsy shop I don't think! Send me a link, will ya!
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